This weekend, we were invited to watch a practice session of a Water Polo team. The players were kids, 5 to 10 year olds. Since they were so young, it was co-ed, both boys and girls. About 50 kids and about 150 spectators – parents, siblings, relatives, friends.
One girl was crying loud. She was about 9 years old. She was not just weeping silently. She did not want to go in the pool and practice. For some reason, she hated water polo. Her mom and dad were persuading her to go into the pool. Her only answer? Cry Cry Cry.
The mom lost patience. She ordered the child to go in the pool and be in the water at a corner of the pool until the practice was over. The girl entered the pool and hung in the water in a corner. And, continued to cry. When the practice was over, she got out of the pool and the family went home. I am told this happened every week.
God knows how many verbal abuse and/or physical beatings that girl may be facing at home. Now I realize why some young girls run away from home.
I do know that when parents admit their kids in an extra curricular activity, some kids will resist. After 2 or 3 sessions, they will become fond of those activities. But what should the parent do if the kid refuses to participate and start to cry every week? Personally, I will not go to such extreme and pressure my kid.
It is ok for parents to push their kids a little to participate in some activity. It is parents’ responsibility also. Excessive pressure is not acceptable. Some parents feel the achievement of their kids as their own achievement.
I thought only Indians pressure their kids. Looks like it is all over the world.
What do you think?